your behavior should always reflect a willingness to see to the needs and desires of your Dominant at all times. your role as a submissive is to serve. Is your Dominant about to light up a cigarette? Is her/her coffee cup empty or has it grown cold? Does he/she need a chair to sit on? It’s the job of a submissive to make sure the Dominant is comfortable.
Similarly, it is your joyful task to demonstrate, through your attitude and demeanor, that the Dominant’s needs come first. Your ability to devotedly serve your Dominant is a standard by which others will judge you AND your Dominant. Not only will your attentiveness please your Dominant but it will impress those you meet both with your dominant’s power and your submissiveness. In other words, you will be a submissive who a dominant is proud to collar and one who others will believe is worth collaring.
Some submissives mistake their ability to take a heavy beating as the proof of their devotion. Certainly, it can be a highly erotic type of service to endure heavy pain for your dominant, but what about all those moments when your dominant isn’t “doing” you? Are you as good a submissive to him during the quiet moments as you are when your dominant is giving you what you crave?
Dominance and submission are anchored in the mental body. D/s involves power exchange and is usually time-delimited, but not always. Power exchange is used during a scene or during the time when the dominant and submissive are together; however, some protocols may be established to extend the scope of service to include instances when the dominant and submissive are not together. The submissive is NOT the dominant’s “girlfriend/boyfriend”. A “boyfriend/girlfriend” is a person with the same rights and responsibilities as his/her partner. Within the confines of a D/s relationship, the submissive has rights, but privileges may be granted by the dominant, as Previously negotiated as part of the consensual exchange of power. The Dom and sub are not equals.
A good Dom contributes to the social, emotional and physical well-being of his/her submissive. It is the responsibility of a good Dom to care for His/Her most precious possession – the submissive to gives the gift of service.