LRA Presents “Asking For It: Negotiation Practices…” with Roughinamorato, Oct 27 @ 6pm

CHICAGO – The L.R.A. successor to one of Chicago’s oldest BDSM Social Clubs in furtherance of its mission of providing educational and social opportunities to the Chicago Community proudly announces “Asking For It: Negotiation Practices To Get What You Want And Get It Good,” with Roughinamorato, Saturday, October 27, 2012 at 6pm.

We all know that one of the basic starting points for play in our world is negotiation, but is it just a basic necessity to play, like bread and water are to dining?

In this class we’ll discuss negotiation, from foundations (why it’s important, what the starting points to cover are), to more advanced techniques. What is the difference between flirting and negotiation, and when do they overlap? How can you make negotiation into a form of foreplay? And how do you stay focused while doing these and not lose sight of what you need to accomplish – where is the responsible part in the play?

Come learn, think, flirt, and get some fun dirty ideas as we explore how to bring fun and proficiency to these important bedrock principles.

About our presenter

Roughinamorato is a charmingly sadistic bastard who firmly believes that kink should be fun; just because you’re beating or torturing someone doesn’t mean you can’t both have a good laugh between the screams. He’s been presenting and teaching in the vanilla world as a software geek for over 15 years, and active and presenting in the BDSM scene since 2006.

He runs Rough Crowd, a monthly rough body play group in Chicago, and takes that knowledge on the road with the Rough Crowd Road Trip, a rough body play intensive weekend that has made appearances in Detroit, Boston, Minneapolis, and most recently Toronto. In 2010 he created, co-organized and presented at BAM! Chicago, a rough body play intensive weekend. He’s taught at nationally-renown clubs in Chicago, GD2 and the LRA, events including Shibaricon, Rope Camp, MadTownKinkFest, Tournament, and Spankfest/Tryst, and kink groups across the Midwest from MIN-KY in Minnesota to GRALE in Grand Rapids. He enjoys most forms of rough body play, as well as humiliation, degradation, and objectification.

His journey of self-discovery into kink and BDSM – things that have really always been there, deep inside for him – has led him to want to share that joy and pain with others, through classes about BDSM, kink, and sexual expression, both physically-oriented and mentally-focused.

Roughinamorato lives in Chicago.

DATE: October 27, 2012

COST: There is NEVER a fee to attend L.R.A.’s seminars, it is part of our mission to encourage and assist education and exploration in the area of human sexuality

TIME: 6:00-8:00 PM

LOCATION: LRA (e-mail for details)

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Throughout the seminar and at its conclusion you will have the opportunity to ask questions and get actual hands on practice. The fun and learning does not end there though, for all first time seminar attendees you may be invited to stay by one of the LRA Board members to practice all of what you have learned in our play space. This will give you a chance to try out what you have just learned as well as meet other members of the club.

All we ask is that you sign our standard guest waiver, have government issued photo identification, to prove that you are over 19 years of age, and that you respect the fact that the LRA is an alcohol and drug free space and that no alcohol or drugs may be brought into the space or ingested at the LRA.

So if the idea of a little slap and tickle with your partner intrigues you, you own more then one copy of 50 Shades of Grey, or you are just a sincere adult who wants to explore their sexuality please feel free to join us. The L.R.A. welcomes all interested adults so please feel free to cross-post this announcement to any other lists or persons you think might be interested

LRA is a private social club for like minded individuals who are dedicated to the celebration of alternative lifestyles, welcoming people of all genders and orientations.

LRA reserves the right to deny any individual admission at our sole discretion.

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