Monthly column by Chicago Den writer Paul Brown
July 31, 2012
Role-playing fantasies is a great tool; they assist in awakening creativity and imagination in the couple, Role-playing can also help divert from routine sex, and may heighten and enrich sexual relations.
When is pain not pain?
July 3, 2012
Often people outside the scene don’t see the appeal in any of the things SMBD do that look painful. What’s enjoyable about being hit? Where’s the fun in getting bruised? Well, think about this. Have you ever had intense sex and afterwards noticed bite marks on your neck of which you had no memory? What happened was your love partner bit you, HARD, hard enough that it bruised you, and all you felt was another jolt of pleasure?
What and Why BDSM
June 4, 2012
“BDSM” is an acronym of “B&D” (Bondage & Discipline), “D&S” (Dominance & Submission), and “S&M” (sadomasochism). “BDSM” refers to any or all of these things, and a lot of stuff besides.
Tying up your lover is BDSM; so is flogging that person, or bossing that person around, or any of a thousand other things. BDSM is highly erotic, usually (though not always) involves sex or sexual tension; and is highly psychologically charged. One person (the “submissive”) agrees to submit to another person (the “dominant”); or, alternately, one person agrees to receive some sort of sensation, such as spanking, from another.